How to Feel Beautiful in Motherhood.

A year after embracing motherhood, I sometimes reminisce those moments where I feel the most beautiful. (this was in my draft, 5 years now has passed)

And yes I must admit, I miss those times, and I do want to feel the same way as before.

Motherhood is a mixture of extreme joys, and extreme sadness at once. Looking at your young one would leave you to decide whether to look your best or tend to his best instead. But, I learned that when you feel down about yourself, it will reflect on the way you care for your baby.

I observed myself, and I realized at times when I do not care on how I look, or how many hours I rest, my baby is unsettled as well, he becomes cranky, it seems as if he mirrors the way I feel.

So, I experimented on some ways on how I could make myself feel and look pretty the best way that I could:

1. Make it to a point where you wake up early and have time to be alone, that is when I feel myself most, I feel young again, I have time to meditate and write on my devotionals. I also have time to reflect and be grateful about life, without any noise but only thoughts of my mind. 

2. Do not compare my old self and my self now. Especially physically, because I could never bring that back. I noticed when I appreciate myself now, it makes me more beautiful. There is a different kind of charm confidence can bring you.

3. Work on your love language towards yourself. I discovered that I feel loved if I am being served, or if I am given gifts. That is my way of saying "I love you" too. Please apply that to yourself, if I want to feel loved, I buy myself gifts, I cook my favorites so that I could eat them. Practice self-love in these ways. 

4. Always ask for help. You could not do it alone, I always thought that I could be a super woman, be beautiful and at the same time take care of a baby. But I could not do both, if I want to rest, I ask for help. You are still a Super Woman even if you ask for help. It helped my mental health a lot.